Does the thought of having to give your groom wedding speech fill you with trepidation? Well, it doesn't need to. We have asked Tony Ward, the ex Banqueting Manager for upmarket Dickens In By The Tower in London how to prepare for the day, what to say and do and how to keep your nerves under control.
The first thing to do is to ensure that you have enough time in hand. Tony says, 'One of the biggest mistakes I used to see, even at expensive high- class weddings was a total lack of preparation from the groom. On occasion the groom did not even understand the protocol of the speech or what he was supposed to say or do. Obviously he looked foolish in front of his new wife and family, his own family and the guests.'
So, Tony's first rule is to understand what you are there to do. 'It is all extremely straightforward' Tony tells us. 'First of all the groom should thank the father of the bride for his speech - a good tip here is to know what is in his speech, enabling the groom to respond in a well thought out manner. Next the groom should thank everybody who has helped to organise the event. This is a good point to perhaps present the brides mother with a bouquet of flowers and to give gifts to his helpers. Next he should make some well chosen remarks about his new wife. Perhaps how they met or a nice anecdote about the proposal. The main thing is, do not say anything to embarrass your new bride. Finally the groom's last duty is to propose a toast to the bridesmaids.'
It is all really straightforward then. 'Yes it is, the key is to understand the running order and make yourself totally familiar with it' says Tony.
What other tips can Tony's experience offer us. 'Well I would suggest that the groom writes he speech longhand on a computer. Just write whatever comes into your head and them edit it over a few days. Once you are happy with the content, practice it. I know this will sound really lame, but practise in front of a mirror so that you can see yourself in action - look at your body action, You would not believe the number of people who jangle their change about. Then practice in front of a family member. This really helps because unless you are used to speaking to a large group of people it can be very daunting on the day and the mere act of practicing with a family member can really help. If you learn your speech well you will give a much better performance on the day. If you need to it is perfectly acceptable to make up some small cards with key phrases to help you remember what to say and what to do'.
'My final piece of advise would be to tell the groom not to drink any alcohol until after his speech. The wedding day is a long day and he will have time enough later'.
Jennifer Ellison is a lifestyle writer who specialises in food & drink and hospitality subjects.
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